選擇了選擇，是最好的選擇嗎？
朝聞木語
70天！整整10周的停更，是不是讓你忘了我和朝聞木語的存在。過去的三個月，我努力做了一件事情，學習了200小時，考了一門試。雖結果尚未公布，但依舊滿心希望。考試結束，朝聞木語又可以正常恢復更新了，已經有好幾個選題迫不及待地要寫些東西了。
還是想先聊聊這次準備的PMP考試，考試不難，但想5A不下點功夫一定是無望的。前人經驗告訴我至少需要200小時才會有較大幾率拿到5A。而每天的Keep、流利說、每日聽力、得到，每周的朝聞木語和跑步，貌似這些事情已經填滿了我的日常，那如何複習？為了5A，無奈只能做出選擇性放棄。keep和流利說從45min降至30min，每日聽力改為上下班路上的刷題，朝聞木語放棄了兩個月，跑步放棄了近一個月。
事後想想，為了考試，放棄的這些東西值得嗎？我不知道，但起碼不後悔，畢竟是自己做出的選擇。
人這一生不就是由這樣一個又一個的選擇組成的么，小到逛超市選擇什麼牌子的速食麵，大到選擇配偶或者糾結先買車還是先買房，無一不是一個個地選擇描繪了我們的人生軌跡。每一個選擇或瀟洒或痛苦，但都是出於利己的目的而選，哪怕有一些痛苦的選擇也都是基於我們自己的潛在意願。
The whole life of a person was made by a series of choices which record our life , which include either shopping in mall or choosing your soulmate. No matter how eazy your choice is,you made it based on your own target and profit even for those painful ones.
優質世界是任何選擇的基石
The quality world is the footstone of any choice.
因為利己主義，人是根據自己的意願來感知周圍現實，換句話講，你以為你以為的就是你以為的。（此處我內心是糾結的，因為我不知道英語如何翻譯~~~）每個人對我們生活的世界有一整套個人的觀點和看法組合成的幻想，選擇理論中將這些標準和看法歸納為一個很美的詞語，優質世界。誠然，優質世界代表了內心的渴望，包含了你最愛的人、最想擁有的事物和一直以來秉承的信念。但優質世界的內斂屬性決定了它必然存在個體差異性。每個人的優質世界都不相同，導致了工作生活的人際交往中出現的各種誤解和偏見。當別人和我們意見相左時，我們總會以對自己最有利的方式來定義現實，因為我們總傾向於把自己的優質世界當成唯一正確的。而為了保護優質世界裡畫面的完整性，我們會做很多過激的的事情滿足自己，甚至是強迫別人做他不願意做的事，這隻會讓對方與我們的隔閡越來越深。
Due to egoism,man perceive the real world according to their own aspiration. In another words , you think you do it for what you think.Everyone has his or her own point of view and opinion to the world we lived,and all of them combined into the fantasy，and a graceful word 「quality world」 is uesed to describe it according to choice theory.Of course the quality world represent your inner desire which include your lover，what you want and the belief you insist on.But the restrain attribute of quality world led to individual difference.Misunderstanding and prejudice in human communacation comes from the quality world individual difference.When we have different opinion with others,we prefer to to define reality in the way best to ourselves, because we often think only our quality world is correct. We may do radical action to satisfy ourselves to protect our quality world even to force others doing what they don』t want and this could break the relationship.
早些時候，我常常幻想改變他人，想讓別人和事物的運轉按照我所希望的優質世界發展，但無情的現實告訴我，我過分高估了我的影響力，我改變不了任何人。或許我可以暫時左右別人的行為，但我們永遠沒有辦法控制別人的優質世界，這也許就是常說的江山易改本性難移吧。我們唯一併且可以掌握的就是調整和改變自己的優質世界來讓自己更加幸福，所以我才有了朝聞木語，我選擇向別人分享我的優質世界，儘管只有一小部分人會認真讀我的文章，但我希望的是，每一個我經過思考的文字都能給你帶來全新的收穫，也能更好建立你與我的鏈接。
In the past few years, I always hope to change others and let others act as the requirement of my quality world. But the reality tells me that I over estimate my influence and I cant change anyone. Maybe I could impact others action but I never have the opportunity to control others quality world.A leopard can not change its spots. What only we can do is to adjust and change ourselves quality world to make ourselves more happy. That why I have my own wechat official account, and I choose to share my quality world. Im looking forward my words coud bring new gain to you and contact with me easily, even there is only a few person can read it seriously.
渴望造就了你的痛苦
Desire makes you painful.
優質世界並不意味著你所設想的都是美好而幸福的，其中的渴望反映在現實中往往又會充滿對立和矛盾。我想要過的更加地有意義，做更多有價值的事情，同時我也想有休閑娛樂的時間；因為責任心我今天要開一個非常重要的會議，但今天我又約了朋友；因為我要考試拿高分要好好複習，但我又不想放棄我原有很多的堅持。所有這些衝突的嚴重性和你對兩個畫面的渴望程度成正比。如果都很渴望，就會非常痛苦，如果兩邊都不選擇，也不捨棄，看似推後了問題，但衝突會隨時間變得越來越激烈，直到你陷入只能顧全其中一個畫面的結果，看上去好像是你被迫地接受了最後的結果。但真實的情況是，在你拋出那一枚硬幣的同時，其實你已經有了答案，這是你主動的選擇而已。
Quality world doesnt mean all you imagine is happy, there maybe full fill with conflicts among your desire. I want to live my life more meaniful and valuable, but also I want to have leasure time. I want to participate an important meeting due to my responsibility, but also I will have a date with my friends. I want to pass the examination with a high score but also I dont want to reduce my time in other things. The severity of the conflict is directly proportional to your desire for these two pictures. You must be painful when you want both and you also could delay the choice time and sharpen contradiction with time. At last you have to choose one as if you were forced but this situation was caused by yourself choice. Before you toss a coin , you already have the answer you want.
如何做出最佳選擇
How to make the best choice？
既然選擇無法避免，那怎樣才能做出最佳的選擇？PMP考試一共200道選擇題，基本全部是情景題，考察當你面對一個複雜棘手的情況下，你會做出什麼最佳的選擇。想要做出最佳的選擇就一定離不開批判性的思維，做一個有批判性思維的人，不要隨便接受自己聽到的各種信息，用具體的標準來思考，推理，然後有意識的做出選擇。任何一篇朝聞木語的文章都只是啟發，希望你能有自己的獨立思考，了解自己的觀點構築自己的思維體系。而對於選擇，如何用批判性思維來幫助做選擇，則需要把握好前提、過程和陷阱。
Since choice can not be avoid, then how to make a best choice? As to PMP examination, it has 200 situational choice questions, which mean to exam how to make a choice when you face different situation. If you want to make the best choice, you must have your own cratical thinking , dont accept every information you heared, think on a specific standard and make choice based on your judgement. Every article in my wechat official account is only a key to help you to know yourself and build your own thinking system. After having the cratical thinking, you should focus on the precondition, process and trap when making a choice.
最佳選擇前提無論考試還是真實工作生活中的選擇，作出最佳選擇的前提是把握好論證的論題，也就是自己想實現的目標究竟是什麼。讀研的兩年半，最大的體會和收穫不是專業知識或實踐經驗，而是一種明確了想實現目標可以將之分解考慮究竟需要什麼的能力。無論何種環境下的感染或干擾，堅守自己優質世界中最根本的原則和目標才是避免被別人牽著鼻子走的關鍵。
No matter what the choice is in exam or reality, the precondition for making the best choice is the thesis of argument, that is your real target. The biggest achievement during my postgraduate period is one ability to confirm the target and break down what need to do to achieve it. The key to avoid to be led by others is to insist your basic principle and target of your quality world in the disturbance from outside world.
最佳選擇過程在各種觀點影響下做出選擇時，要權衡好各種論據和結論之間的關係，在獲得結論之前要充分考慮所有的論據。選擇的質量、成本、風險、相關方等一系列要素都要在做出最終選擇前進行充分而又有依據地進行對比判斷。
You should balance the relationship between arguments and conclusion before making a choice in the effect of different opinions. All the arguments points such as quality, cost, risk and stakeholders need to be sufficient contrast.
最佳選擇陷阱當你不清楚哪種選擇為最優時，你往往會選擇聽取專家意見或研究結果，事實證明專業人士確實可以給你提供一些入門級的經驗，但要警惕任何利益相關的廣告性說辭，以防專家變磚家。生活中我們往往也存在一些莫名其妙的流行觀念，詳見朋友圈中流行的各種「你應該知道的幾件事」，儘可能用理性的思維去分析和判斷。最後也是最容易掉進的陷阱就是認知失調，當有一些證據和我們的觀念衝突時，我們會下意識感到不舒服，並且儘可能美化和合理化自己的選擇。在這樣的情況下往往會做出錯誤的選擇，世界盃期間的天台就是最好的例證。
When you dont know which choice is best, you may choose to follow the experts suggestion. As it turns out, the professional suggestions really give you some experiences but you should be careful about their advertising words. The most hidden trap is cognitive dissonance, which means you may feel uncomfortable and try to rationalize your choice when some evidences different with your opinion. You may make a bad choice when you drop in the cognitive dissonance.
尾巴
有時候真的有最佳選擇這一說法嗎？
無論選擇了哪一項，你都放棄了其他的選擇，而那些是你永遠也無法回去重來一次的沉沒成本。
既然無法知道和對比不同的情況，哪又何來最佳一說？
或許你選擇了選擇，這本身就是一種最佳的選擇，誰又能說不是呢？
朝聞 · 木語
Express My Opinion
TAG:朝聞木語 |