美國人育兒：我的孩子交不到朋友，很孤獨怎麼辦？

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（圖：家長要幫助孩子擴展社交網路。）

The Raising Children Network explains that parentsand mentors can help teenagers cultivate friendshipsthrough a number of avenues, which include fosteringstrong relationships with parents and other familymembers to give teenagers a sense of belonging,community and self. Parents may also consideralternative and other diverse outlets for socialization,including employment, clubs and even Internet media.

《少兒交際網路提升》說，父母可以通過一系列的方法幫助孩子建立友誼。這些方法包括在孩子與其它家庭成員間營造堅強的親情紐帶，這樣可使孩子有歸屬感、團體感和自我存在感。父母還可以考慮其它多樣性的方法來擴展社交網路，如臨時工、協會，甚至互聯網。

One positive possibility lies in encouraging eenagersto obtain a part-time job, especially one that offersthem the opportunity to meet and work with kids theirown age. If the teenager isuncomfortable making friendsat school alone, employment offers a differentcontextin which to forge relationships.

一個很好的選項是鼓勵孩子去做臨時工，特別是那些可以讓他們認識及與同齡人一起工作的臨時工。如果孩子在學校不能自然地交到朋友的話，臨時工提供了另一個可以交朋友的場合。

According to the Raising Children Network, parents should determine what their teenagers" strongest interests are and then encourage them to pursue secondary social environments, such as after-school clubs or sports teams, that suit those interests. Additionally, parents should make it clear to their teenagers that they are welcome to bring friends home and are similarly free to meet their friends elsewhere as long as conditions are safe and appropriate.

《少兒交際網路提升》說，父母應該先判斷孩子最強烈的興趣是什麼，然後鼓勵他們進入符合他們興趣的其它社交場合，如課後協會或者體育團隊。另外，父母應該清楚地跟孩子說歡迎孩子帶朋友到家裡，同樣地，在安全和合適的情況孩子也可以在其它地方跟朋友見面。

In a related sense, parents should understand that the teenage years are frequently a time when children establish some measure of distance from their parents or spend less time with them. This should be interpreted as a healthy thing and not something that should worry parents or prompt them to curtail their teenager"s activities as long as they are safe and appropriate. If teenagers find it particularly hard to make friends, parents can always start by scheduling increased time with extended family, which is something that can serve as a lead-in to an expanded social network.

與此相關的是，父母應該理解到少兒時期通常是孩子離開父母的懷抱的時候，與父母一起的時間會變少。這是正常的，父母不應該擔心甚至約束孩子的活動，前提是他們是安全的且沒有出現過分的情況。如果孩子交友特別費勁，父母可以增加與親戚朋友交往的時間，這可以引導孩子進入一個更大的社會網路。

Kid"s Helpline suggests that some of the oldest and simplest techniques are still useful. Simple things such as encouraging teens to smile and feel confident, asking questions and starting conversations, and working on listening and making themselves available to people can go a long way toward developing teenagers" social skills and helping them become more approachable.

一些傳統而簡單的方法仍然有用。簡單的方法，如鼓勵孩子微笑、自信、主動問問題、主動跟別人說話、善於傾聽、為朋友留出時間等，在培養少兒社交技巧和接人待物能力上還大有可為。

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