應該與同事成為朋友還是對手？Should be friends or adversaries with colleagues？

問：與同事之間應該保持什麼樣的關係最好呢？是朋友，競爭者，還是互相利用？是相互坦誠溝通，還是提防妒忌？如果遇到同事打小報告，怎麼處理？

答：《三十忠告論》中云：於誰相處不怨亦不親，穩重自主即是吾忠告。與同事之間應和睦、穩重。所謂「和睦」，彼此應該結善緣，學會換位思考，給對方發好心、行好事。所謂「穩重」，互相之間要保持距離，不遠不近。以這樣的原則相處就可以了。

若有人打小報告，背後說你的是非，要明白這些境遇都是自己往昔造作惡業的果報，尤其是語四過（惡語、妄語、綺語、離間語），因此要猛厲懺悔；此外，還要感恩這些遭遇，給了你消業的機會；再次，要利用這樣的機會，調整和改正自己的心態和言行。這些都是接受因果、改變因果的方法，若你真正通過修行有所證悟了，那時就可以超越因果，做到如如不動、了了分明，這些境遇都無法傷害你。

Question: What kind of relationship should I keep with my colleagues? Friends, competitors or mutual advantages? Should I communicate with them honestly or be wary and jealous of each other? What should I do if my colleagues snitch on me?

Guru answers: In 『Thirty Advices』: Don』t be hatred or too close when get along with others, being steady and self-dependent, which are my advices. The colleagues should be harmonious and steady with each other. The so-called 『harmony』 means making good relationship with each other, learning how to think in other』s shoes, and making good wishes and doing good things for others. The so-called 『steady』 means keeping distance between each other, neither too far nor too close. Keeping this rule is ok.

If somebody snitches on you, gossips about you behind you, you should know that these are the results of the bad karma you made in the past life, especially the four speech faults (harsh words, lying, worthless chatter and sowing discord). Therefore, you should confess fiercely. Then you also should appreciate the misfortunes, which give you a chance to clear your karma. Moreover, you should use these opportunities to adjust and correct your mind, speech and behavior. These are ways to accept and change cause and effect. If you really attain the enlightenment through practice, you can surpass the karma and become steady and clear, these misfortunes cannot harm you.

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