刷爆社交網路的經典TED演講：如何成為一個自信的人？

作為一位大學體育主任和足球校隊主教練，伊萬·約瑟夫（Ivan Joseph）博士經常被人問起他招收足球運動員時看重哪些特點：速度？力量？還是靈巧性？

都不是，是自信。在此次演講中，約瑟夫博士解釋了什麼是自信，以及為什麼自信不僅對運動生涯，更對我們的生活來說至關重要。

另外，最重要的是，他還提出了幾個建立自信的方法。許多人一碰到失敗就放棄，一遇到困難就退縮，他們缺乏的正是自信。所以，約瑟夫博士提出的這幾個方法絕對值得一看！

Ivan Joseph: the skill of self-confidence

演講部分摘錄以及方法總結（中英對照）：

I use the definition of self-confidence to be the ability or the belief to believe in yourself, to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. The belief that you can accomplish it – self-confidence.

我把自信定義為完成一件事的能力和信仰，不管有多大可能性，不管這件事有多困難，不管會遭遇什麼挫折。這種相信自己能做成一件事的信仰就是自信。

The easiest way to build self-confidence: there』s no magic button. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Right?

沒有魔法按鈕。建立自信最簡單的方式就是重複，重複和重複。明白了嗎？

The problem with repetition is: how many of us bail after the first bit of failure? How many of us bail after the first bit of adversity? Edison was on that video, and it depends who you ask, there』s anywhere from 1,000 to 10,000 tries to build that light bulb.

重複的問題就在於：我們當中有多少人能在第一次失敗的時候振作起來？有多少人能夠在面對瓶頸的時候堅持下去？我們都知道愛迪生，為了發明出電燈泡，他進行了一千次甚至一萬次的嘗試。

Maybe it shouldn』t be repetition, maybe the answer should be persistence. Because we all repeat something but very few of us really will persist. So that』s one way to build self-confidence.

建立自信最簡單的方式也可能不是重複，而是堅持。因為我們都會重複，但很少有人會真的堅持。因此，堅持也是建立自信的一種方式。

The other one is self-talk. We all have a self-talk tape that plays in our head.

還有一種方式叫做自我對話。我們所有人都會在腦海中進行自我對話。

We all have this negative self-talk that goes in our heads. Guess what? There is enough people that are telling us that we can"t do it. That we"re not good enough. Why do we want to tell ourselves that.

我們都會在腦海中進行這種消極的自我對話。猜猜為什麼？已經有如此多的人在說我們做不到，我們不足夠優秀。那為什麼我們還要給自己這種消極的暗示呢？

We know for a fact that thoughts influence actions. Why do we want to say that negative self-talk to ourselves.

我們都知道，思想影響行為。我們為什麼要進行一場消極的自我對話呢？

We need to get our own self-affirmation.That we need to reaffirm I"m the captain of my ship and the master of my fate.

我們需要肯定自己。我們需要不斷自我激勵，告訴自己「我是自己戰艦的隊長，我是自己命運的主人」。

How do you build self-confidence? Get away from the people who will tear you down. There』s enough of that.

你們是如何建立自信的呢？遠離那些打擊你的人。這些人已經夠多了。

Two ways to build self-confidence. I』m worried about my time, I』m going to tell you of one way you can build self-confidence in others. Catch them when they"re good.

還有兩種方式能夠建立自信。我的時間可能有點緊張了，我先告訴你們一種可以幫別人建立自信的方法。就是當他們表現好的時候，要及時給予稱讚。

Self-confident people interpret feedback the way they choose to.

自信的人對別人的反饋有一套自己的理解方式。

If I could give you one thing to take from this, it is: no one will believe in you unless you do. We』re supposed to be different, folks. And when people look at us, believe in yourself.

如果有一點是能夠教給你們的，那就是：除非你做到了，否則沒有人會相信你。每個人都應當做最獨特的自己。當別人把目光投向我們時，請相信你自己。

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