等別人把話說完，是一種基本修養

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年輕的母親為了驗證她教子有方的成果,把兩個蘋果喜盈盈的給了年幼的兒子,接下來,她等待兒子把一個蘋果送給媽媽。

可是兒子接住蘋果後,看都沒看她一眼,就一顆蘋果咬了一口。年輕的母親當然非常傷心,正要發火訓斥兒子的自私貪婪。誰知道就在這時,童稚的兒子奶聲奶氣的說:媽媽,你吃這顆蘋果,我嘗過了,不酸!

媽媽的眼淚瞬間就流了下來。

有時候,我們之所以憤怒是因為沒有耐心和時間等一個回答,傾聽的後面是另一番的暖意。

The young mother triedto verify the fruits of her godchild. , Give two apples to their young son. , Next up. , She waited forher son to give an apple to her mother.

But when my soncaught the apple, , Didn"t even look at her. ,Just a bite of an apple. Theyoung mother was very sad , of course , and was about to fire up her son"sselfish greed . Who knows, just then, the childish ,son said : milky: Mom, ,you eat this apple , I tasted it. , No acid!

Mother"s tearscame down in an instant.

Sometimes. , We"re angrybecause we don"t have the patience and the time to answer. , Listening isfollowed by another warm-up.

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前一段時間,和一個朋友合作一個項目,自己感覺十分用心,驗收的時候,聽到這樣那樣的批評和建議很不爽。

朋友打來電話談修改意見,還未開口,我就講了一大通自己的理由和想法。

後來我們倆基本是各唱各的調,各說的各的套,談話不歡而散,結果誰也沒有表明自己的思路。

朋友著急的說,能不能談?不能談我們微信上聊吧!

後來朋友從微信上把自己的思路條理清晰的發來,其實有些地方的確有非常可取的意見,問題迎刃而解。

事後想想,很多事情壞在我們沒有給對方把話說完的機會。

你等我把話說完。

這是現代社會交往中多麼卑微的一個要求啊,而我們往往忽略交流中最基本的尊重。

Some time ago. , Work on aproject with a friend , I feel very attentive. , When acceptance , It"s not nice to hear such criticism andsuggestions.

A friend calledto talk about the amendment. , Haven"t opened yet. , I spoke a lot about my reasons and ideas.

And then we werebasically singing each song. , Each said the set of each ,The conversation didn"t breakup. , As a result, no one has expressed their own thinking.

My friend said ina hurry. , Can we talk? ? Can"t talk about us on WeChat?!

Later, friendsfrom WeChat to put their own ideas clear sent , In fact, there are some places where thereare very desirable opinions. , The problem is solved.

Think about itlater. , A lot of things are bad when we don"t give each other a chance to finish.

You wait for meto finish.

What a humblerequirement it is in modern social communication. , And we tend to ignore the most basicrespect in communication.

03

兄弟剛成家,磨合期,小夫妻天天爭吵,雙方都很苦惱,都快到離婚的地步。

昨天女孩給我打來電話訴苦。

我知道家事無理可講,驢圈裡踢不死驢,無非就是那些雞毛蒜皮的小事,你付出多了,他回報少了等等,我耐心的聽她訴說,適時的表示同情和認同。

最後女孩高高興興的說回去給男人做飯去呀,臨了贊我:你真會安慰人,經你一安慰我覺得原來沒什麼大事。

我笑著掛了機。

心想,我什麼話都沒說。只不過她想傾訴一下自己的委屈而已。

Brother juststarted a family. , Run-in period , Little couple quarrels every day , Both sides areupset. , It"s almost divorced.

The girl calledme yesterday to complain.

I know familymatters don"t make sense. , Can"t kick a dead donkey in a donkey"s circle. , Nothing butthose little things. , You"ve given more. , He"s less rewardand and so on. , I listenedpatiently to her. , Timely expression of sympathy and recognition.

Finally the girlsaid happily to go back to cook for the man , Pro praise me. : You"re so comforted. , After youcomfort edited I think the original is no big deal.

I hung up with asmile.

Ithought. , I didn"t say anything. It"s just that she wants totalk about her grievances.

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相傳鍾子期是一個戴斗笠、披蓑衣、背沖擔、拿板斧的樵夫。

歷史上記載俞伯牙在漢江邊鼓琴,鍾子期感嘆說:「巍巍乎若高山,蕩蕩乎若流水。」

兩人就成了至交。

鍾子期死後,俞伯牙認為世上已無知音,終身不再鼓琴。

傾聽不僅拉近心靈的距離,而且是遇見知己的開始。

國際巨星卡羅爾有一次巡演,空運吉他被摔壞,卡羅爾找航空公司投訴,居然沒人願意傾聽他的投訴,認為卡羅爾小題大做,對於一個藝人吉他就是他的生命。

卡羅爾十分傷心,多次投訴無果的卡羅爾一怒之下,創作出一首《美聯航弄壞了我摯愛的吉他》的視頻歌曲,通過歌唱的形式,將吉他受損及整個投訴過程中的遭遇展現出來。

想不到接下來短短兩周內,這首歌的網路點擊量竟超過500萬。

更讓人沒想到的是,受這首視頻歌曲的負面影響,美聯航的股票幾天內,直跌10%,造成了高達1.8億美元的巨大損失——足以買下51000多把吉他賠給卡羅爾。

「其實,我只想美聯航能有一個人站出來傾聽我的不滿,承認他們做錯了,對我說一聲『對不起』,僅此而已。可是他們沒有這樣做。」

卡羅爾最後這樣說出了自己堅持投訴美聯航的原因。

你等我把話說完,卡羅爾無非要的一個尊重的傾聽而已。

It is said thatthe clock is a widower wearing a bucket, a coat, a back-to-back, and a boardaxe.

Historicalrecords of the drumming of the tooth in the Han River ,The clock sighed : "It"s amountain , It"s a stream of water. "I"s going

The two becamethe end of the relationship.

After the deathof the clock, , The tooth thinks the world is ignorant , For life no more drumming.

Listening doesnotonly close the distance of the mind , And the beginning of meeting yourconfidante.

Internationalsuperstar Carol has a tour. , Airlift guitar was broken ,Carol"s asking the airline tocomplain. , No one wants to listen to his complaints. , Think Carol"s fussy , For an artistguitar is his life.

Carol is verysad. , Carol, who had complained of fruitlessness, was furious. , Create a videosong that United broke my beloved guitar , Through the form of singing , Show the damage to the guitar and the whole complaint.

I can"t imaginethe next two weeks. , The song"s online hits outnumbered 500million.

What"s even moreunexpected is that , Negatively affected by this video song , United"s stockin a few days , Straight down 10%,caused up to 1.8Billions of dollars in huge losses - enough to buy 51000Give Carol more guitars.

"Actually, , I just wantsomeone from United to come forward and listen to my grievances. , Admit that theydid something wrong. , Say "I"m sorry" to me. , That"s all. But they didn"t. "I"sgoing

Carroll concludedby saying why he insisted on complaining about United.

You wait for meto finish. , Carol had nothing more than a respectful listening.

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現在的很多家長訴苦,自己孩子進入叛逆期,根本不聽話!

而不聽話基本成了青春期家長共同的心聲,但冷靜想想,其實這個埋怨的本身就出了問題。

我們捫心自問,你認真去聽孩子的心聲了嗎?

你知道孩子在想什麼,希望什麼?

你要了解孩子,卻不去聽他的,而是要他聽你的,你老是在那裡逼叨叨,復讀機一樣,他聽你什麼?

你等我把話說完,這是一種提醒,對浮躁和急於求成的你我一種譏諷。

上帝創造人的時候,為什麼只有一張嘴卻有兩個耳朵,那是為了讓我們少說多聽。

我們誰也不是火燒屁股,火急火燎了。怎麼連等待別人表達的時間也沒有嗎?有時候捫心自問,這是一種病,得治。

Many parents nowcomplain , Their own children enter the rebellious period , I don"t listen at all.!

Disobedience hasbasically become the common voice of adolescent parents , But thinkcalmly. , In fact, the complaint itself is a problem.

We ask ourselves., Areyou listening to your children"s voices??

You know what thekids are thinking. , What do you want??

You need to knowthe kids. , and don"t listen to him. , It"s for him to listen to you. , You"re alwaysthere to make a talk. , Repertoire is the same , He listens to you.?

You wait for meto finish. , It"s a reminder. , I am a kind of cynicism to the impetuous and eagerto achieve you.

When God createdman, , Why is there only one mouth but two ears? , That"s to make us talk less and listenmore.

Noneof us burn our asses. , The fire was burning. How can you not even wait forsomeone else to express it? ? Sometimes ask yourself , It"s a disease. , It"s got to be ruled out.

等待別人把話說完,是一種能力,也是一種修養。

有一種傾聽叫胸有成竹,沉著冷靜,那是一種氣勢和氣場,不語也能威嚴,無聲也能溫暖才是魅力。

有一種聆聽需要忘我,聽落雪的聲音,聽風過屋檐,聽早晨的鳥鳴,聽一段美妙的旋律是一種境界和修為。

Waiting forsomeone else to finish. , It"s a capability. , It is also a kind of cultivation.

There"s a kind oflistening called chest-to-heart , Calm and calm. , It"s a kind of momentum and air field. , You can bemajesty without saying a word. , Silence can also be warm is the charm.

There"sa kind of listening need to be self-indulged , Listen to the sound of snow , Listen to the wind over the eaves , Listen to the morning birdsong , Listening to a beautiful melody is a realm and a cure.

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